Parenting is a skill that everyone has if they just follow their instincts. Parenting tips have also been passed down through the generations and everyone has their own opinion. Did you know that children were raised by communities generations ago? Raising a child on your own or with just mum and dad is not normal, and that is why it is stressful to do so. While this will not likely change in your situation change anytime soon here are some tips for raising your child in the easiest and most natural way possible.
Parenting a baby
If you have a new arrival things are most likely very new to you if you did not help raise other children. A screaming baby who can’t communicate with words yet is frustrating and scary. There are a few things to remember that will make this easier
You will have to change your routine to suit them, sleep when they do if needed
Accept help in any form, you don’t have to, or are expected to be a super parent
When your baby cries they want something (food, sleep, nappy/diaper change)
They are just a baby and are not trying to manipulate you when they cry
They are new to the world and love comfort or you being close to them
Parenting a toddler
Toddlers are now toddling around home getting into all kinds of trouble, but they are just learning. Some helpful hints for parenting toddlers:
While they may do something like break a glass or knock over something they didn’t mean to they are still learning to coordinate their hands and feet
They aren’t being naughty, they just don’t know what they are allowed to do yet
Show them what they are allowed to do and they will keep doing that
Don’t leave something around for them to get into trouble, take the trouble making opportunity away
Parenting a child
A child is now learning/learned words and is learning behaviors from yourself and people they are surrounded by. This continues even as they enter their teenage years.
Firstly remember they learn behavior by seeing, make sure you and their other role models are doing all the right things
Make friends with parents and children that you wish yours to exhibit behaviors of
Yes, the child has most likely learned to manipulate now by watching you
Set guidelines to follow but still give them the choices to make
Parenting a teenager
Teenage years are not the last stage of parenting, but it is the last stage of parenting where they are still dependent upon you. These years are generally seen as the more difficult years as your teenager seeks their own independence and identity.
Set clear boundaries but make sure they are just the necessary ones, for example home at a certain time
Explain your decisions to them. Explain about actions and consequences and let them decide what action to take.
Listen to their wants (their actual wants). Most likely a teenager doesn’t want to check a tattoo they want to be noticed, shown as independent and gain popularity. Show them other ways to achieve this.
If you say no to them, they will more then likely do it anyway. Always try to suggest a better alternative where everyone still gets what they actually want.
They can think for themselves
These are just a few of the main points that will hopefully make life easier for everyone. The main point here is to go with the easiest path possible and learn to let go of your own ideas of what every move they should be making is and let them grow into their own person with you to guide them along the way. As that is what parenting is about.
Go to Natural Parenting Tips for heaps of more parenting tips and advice.